These days I seem to be surrounded by failing marriages. And when I say fail I mean fail....bomb the bridge and burn the canyon, flush it down the toilet, take it to the curb. All out war. Let's not be naive readers, you were there for me during my time of duress and I am not one to throw stones. But, I didn't go out with a bang. In fact I slid away like a snake in the Amazon....no bold shout outs, no physical assaulting of another human being, no phone calls or text messages or emails laced with hate and rage. A quiet goodbye while waving in the pitch black, praying to God no one sees me or hears me.
I didn't slip away that quietly. Some knew. Few knew the details, but some knew I was leaving. Unsure as to why our June Cleaver like marriage was suddenly down trodden and in the dust.....the judgments that came afterwards were, to say the least, shocking. I was accused of being a bad mother, a horrible wife and a selfish woman. But the details remained under lock and key.
So with that said why does it have to be a hot air balloon fest when it comes to Splitsville? And the stuff that comes out is unreal. It's like an 80s Soap Opera gone horribly wrong.
And may I ask, what the hell is am emotional affair? This is apparently something women do when they're unhappy. Ummm....ok....maybe it's me because I'm not super emotional but holy crapper an emotional affair, really?
To me I'm not sure what's worse, an emotional affair or a regular physical one. I mean to me the physical one can just be cut off. Thanks for the sex, have a nice life, get the f*** out of my bed, don't ever call me again. As opposed to deep thoughts of an unrealistic life that those two people might spend together....hmmm...let me think about it...I'll take the emotionless hot sex over the exhausting emotional affair any time.
Or how about recently one of the women I attended high school announced on Facebook that her husband was a cheating pig. Nice move...is this a chess game? Should something so sad and disastrous be displayed on Facebook? I am not sure what is more sad, her comment or the flurry of comments to follow. Ugh.
Honestly, if you're going to publicly humiliate him why not just kick him in the groin with steel toe boots. Equal damage in my eyes. Not to mention the pain inside. It would cause me physical pain to type out those words and hit the 'share' button.
Everyone needs peace in their life and we all deal with getting it in different ways. But I use the word peace as a double edged sword. Peace ought to come in a peaceful way....right?
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